Lost and Disconnected

I'm not sure why it has happened, but I have noticed lately that I'm losing touch with my friends and family.  It's not a lack of trying on my part mind you.  I am actively trying to keep in touch; I email them besides my normal joke forwards and I call them, but nobody returns the favor.  I understand being busy; I'm quite busy myself.  However, I do try to make time for my friends and family, even if it's only a few minutes that I can spare.

Here's an example for you.  A really good friend of mine just messaged me today; I've been trying to get a hold of him for the last few months.  Anyway, in his message he said, "Sorry I missed your birthday.  On a side note, I just got married."  Great and congrats to him, but I didn't even know he was seeing anyone.  I told him when I was getting married, but I guess I'm not that good of a friend to him as I thought.

This weekend another friend of mine, N, is having a birthday.  Some mutual friends of ours, R and D, are flying in to surprise him.  My friend B knew R and D were coming in but forgot to tell me....I had already made plans for the weekend and I wasn't going to be able to hang out with N, R, D and B.  Luckily (or unluckily depending how you look at it) my plans for the weekend fell through so now I can go out with them now.  However, it would have been nice to know before I had made plans.

My birthday was a couple of weeks ago.  Only one person remembered it and that was my husband.  Not one of my friends or family (to include my parents) called to wish me anything.  Since then only one person has emailed and said happy birthday, and that was the person in the first example.  I'm not saying send me gifts and take me out, just a quick note or phone call to let me know that you care is all I was wanting.

So now I'm torn and I don't know what to do.  Do I keep doing what I'm doing and hope that people will start returning the favor or do I stop trying to keep in touch and hope someday someone will contact me?  Sometimes it feels like I could fall of the end of the world and nobody would notice that I was gone.

231124 - 2/5/2008 - post comment